Well, It's been another week since I posted and I finally chilled a couple and tried one of my home brews. It is definately low on carbonation, but it's not flat--that's a relief!!! It is definately drinkable and I will enjoy it though, it is a little little astringent (surely another problem to figure out and learn from) doesn't seem to be balanced, but other than that it is what it is.
ihikeut---I was concerned about contaminating the beer and therefore did not mess with it and as you pointed out to wait and see how it comes out. Oh! By the way I made a five gallon batch.
Maine Homebrewer--I like your idea of adding some store bought Irish Red to get the foamy head and the desired fizz my home brew lacks. Not only that maybe that will help balance it out a little as well.
Thank you guys for your input and insights into my dilemma, I really appreciate it---you were both encouraging.